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He would get bullied hard... Over social media, over gaming, over everything. He was the nicest kid, the most shyest kid…He wasn’t very much of a social person after being bullied for the stutter. I think he just didn’t feel comfortable anymore at school [His] mother used drugs, which contributed to the upheaval in the homeAs he grew older, problems at home became more acute and more apparent[He] had a pretty rough life with his mom.

Ah, money! We work hard for it! We want our kids to value and handle it responsibly! What to do when we're met with, "I want that!" and, "Can I have that?" How many times did your parents remind you...and how many times have you repeated their admonition...that money doesn't grow on trees, you know! I hear a lot of parents complain that "kids today are so entitled," but the truth is, our kids are only as entitled as we teach them to be.

This card's instructions suggest having a "discussion where each person gets to voice feelings and thoughts on an issue. Brainstorm solutions and choose one everyone can agree to. Agree on a specific time deadline. If agreement is not followed avoid judgment and criticism. Use nonverbal signals or ask, What was our agreement? If agreeement still is not follwed, start again at step 1."

Ok, Positive Discipline Tool #2: Act Without Words. This tool says, "At times the most effective thing to do is keep your mouth shut and act." I can't change anyone else's behavior.

What I can do is decide how I will respond to that behavior, let them know what to expect, and then follow through, making sure that my behavior is respectful to both myself and the other person.

Ok, the Positive Discipline Tool card I'm going to focus on this week is the 3 R's of Recovery: RECOGNIZE the mistake with a feeling of responsibility, not blame; RECONCILE by apologizing; RESOLVE by working toward a respectful solution.

I'm going to take on a personal challenge, inspired by Brad Ainge, co-author of the book Positive Discipline Parenting Tools, CEO of Empowering People, and son of Dr. Jane Nelsen, author, and co-founder of Positive Discipline Association.

Rebellious teens! How can we get them to listen to us and make good choices for themselves? Parents will learn the difference between empowering and enabling kids as they go through their rebellious phase, and walk away with strategies for staying connected even in the most challenging parenting moments!

Two years and 10 months. That’s the age at which my son finally mastered potty training. That doesn’t sound too bad until I tell you that I started trying to get him to use the potty when he turned 2.

According to Jaci Russo, founder of Social Nation U, I’m a technology immigrant and my children are technology natives.

In other words, I’m of a generation that remembers life before we had computers and digital technology at our fingertips every waking moment. My kids, who are in their early 20’s, never knew life without computers.

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