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Karina Bland is one of my writing heroes--one of my parenting heroes, too!  She's kind of the Erma Bombeck of my generation. 

This is a story shared by Elly Z, a fellow Positive Discipline educator.  She gave me permission to share it on my blog, and I am so grateful. 

Chores. They have to be done and almost as soon as we do them, they need to be done again. Frequently, I wish I could just get rid of all the chores, or pay someone else to do them for me.

A Positive Discipline educator recently noted that we all want our children to be good problem solvers…but we don’t want them to have any problems. Why is that? Because there’s nothing harder than watching my child struggle.

Shhhhhh…don’t tell anyone…but…homework can be FUN!

I’m serious. Some of the best times I’ve spent with my boys have been when we were doing homework.

Ok, funny story. When my sons were 5 and 3, I had to be at school for a presentation by our counseling department. My husband being out of town, I hired a student to take care of the boys in my office.

Close your eyes. Picture yourself at work, with a boss who is inconsistent in defining expectations. One day, your performance is judged on criteria A. Days later, Boss decides A is not as important as B.

I think one of the most satisfying moments in a parenting class is when a parent sits up a little straighter, their eyebrows go up and I can almost see the light bulb flash on over their head as they muse, “So in order to get my child to change HIS behavior, I have to change MINE.”

I remember, when my boys were babies, that I couldn’t wait until they learned to speak. All that pointing and grunting, improvised sign language, and fits of anger when I didn’t understand, would stop when they learned to use language, right?

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